Soulmate or unconditional love?

A lot of people believe that amongst billions of people in this world there's that one person meant for you. A person who compliments you and completes you. More like two puzzle pieces brought together that fit perfectly. A soulmate

But is the ideology about soulmates true? Well, I wouldn't know the answer to that, but I know a famous myth about a Greek god, Zeus, and his relationship with human beings. A long time ago, human beings were very powerful beings with two faces, four hands, and four legs. They were so powerful that they posed a threat to Zeus. Zeus had to weaken them, so he separated them into two, the separation made the beings weep and cling to one another to rejoin but to no avail. Seeing how the two beings were sad and desperate to reattach, he felt pity and created intercourse where the two would feel a sense of completeness. He then punished them and sent them to different parts of the world condemning them to spend their lifetime looking for their other half.

But then someone would ask, if everyone has a soulmate why are there so many single people? Oof! I also don't know the answer to that, but the question should not be about singlehood it should be whether you're searching for a soulmate or unconditional love. Complicated right? We yearn for unconditional love forgetting that neither we nor any relationship can ever achieve perfection. We go from one lover to the next looking for our ideal soulmate and in the process, we stir up unrealistic hopes of finding unconditional love.

We usually yearn for unconditional love because we fail to give it to ourselves and because in one way or another, we didn't receive it in our childhood. Parental love, specifically maternal love is the most enduring form of unconditional love, lack of this love causes feelings of emotional abandonment. 

Unconditional love transcends time, place, behavior, and worldly things. That's why you'll find couples fighting but still staying together because of their unconditional love for each other. Unconditional love, however, doesn't mean we accept abuse, infidelity, addiction, or any other problems we can't tolerate.

We shouldn't chase unconditional love; it's always present within us. It's the unconditioned part of us. But we often fight against ourselves and try to be people that we are not and end up getting the conditional love that comes with instructions. The more we fight against ourselves the more we constrict our hearts.

Healthy relationships provide a path to opening the hidden places in our hearts because they demand openness and honesty. Love melts a closed heart.

I'm no love expert but love yourself first so that others can be able to love you. It's these unwanted parts of ourselves that are in the greatest need of our love then others will follow. Self-love boosts self-esteem and self-confidence. Practice meditation and look deep inside yourself to find your true self and accept those flaws.

Don't look for love, let love find you.